Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Redeeming the Time by Cherishing the Moments

My children are so precious!  I am constantly working at balancing the duties of life with cherishing the moments with my little ones.  Some days I do ok, but more days than I care to admit I find myself being a task master rather than mom.

This morning we were sitting around the table eating our cereal when Kyle, his chest all puffed up with pride, said, "Mom, feel my leg!  I'm getting some hair!"  Then Megan asks in a surprised voice, "You are getting HAIR, Kyle?!"  "Yes!" Kyle replied, "You can't see it, but you can feel it."   Megan says in a matter-of-fact voice, "That's because you've been eating your crust."  At this point in the conversation I could not longer contain my laughter!  Oh my goodness my children do say the funniest things, and they take things so seriously.  Tom teases then on occasion, with "Eat your crust, and you'll get hair on your chest."  but it seems they took his teasing quite literally!

At nap time today I lay down with my sweet Kyle, as I usually do until he gets quiet and settled.  I rubbed his back and sang some of my favorite hymns and choruses to him for a little while.  When I stopped he said to me, "You forgot one, Mom.  You need to sing Jesus Loves Me."  So we sang that one too.  After we finished he gave me a sweet smile, a kiss, and said "I love you, Mom."

Kyle quieted down after that and went right to sleep, while I lay next to him struggling against tears and praying that God would allow me  these moments with my kids for many years.  I'm so glad I took the opportunity to cherish these moments today!

Since my recent transplant I realize that life is so fragile, especially my life--the life of a transplant recipient.   Though I try not to live in fear, there are times when the fact that something could go wrong with my transplant at any minute hits me square between the eyes.  I do not fear death.  I know when I die that I will go to be with my heavenly father,  but I fear leaving my children, and I fear their broken hearts that will result.  This is something that I must continually turn over to God.  I know he has a plan for their little lives, just as much as he has a plan for mine.  And how by worrying can I add a single second to my life?

This past Sunday in our Adult Bible Fellowship we studied this passage in James.

James 4: 13-17  Now listen, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money." Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, "If it is the Lord's will, we will live and do this or that." As it is, you boast and brag. All such boasting is evil. Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins.
Time is our most valuable earthly resource. Each minute is a gift from God, and we are never guaranteed more than 'now'. As a Mom I need to realize that my time with my children is limited (with or without a liver transplant) and make it a point to cherish the moments with them.  Cherishing the moments is so much more than snuggling on the couch, kissing their booboos, and reading them bedtimes stories (though it is that as well).  Cherishing the moments is making the most of every opportunity, taking the time to love them AND lovingly teach them not only by the things I say to them, but the things I do as well.  Though I know when I die I will go to heaven, I do not want to leave my kids helpless... defenseless in this world.  I want NEED to teach them what is most important--a relationship with our heavenly Father.  I want NEED to teach them skills to function as responsible adult.  I want NEED to teach them how to stand in Christ, surrounded by a lost world.  I want NEED to teach them how important the Word of God is... How wonderful, trustworthy, and comforting it is.  I want them to know that when I die, God will be with them, taking care of them, watching over them.   I want them to have that foundation...they NEED it... so that when I'm not here, they will know where to look for the peace and comfort that they cannot get from other people, or from the things that this world has to offer.

Ephesians 5: 15-17  See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,  Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.

Psalm 90:12  Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.

Don't spend time,
Don't waste time,
INVEST time!

This is one of the reasons I blog.  When I am no longer on this earth to help my children, I want them to be able to read this and remember what was important to me, to see that I cherished them, and to see that though I wasn't perfect (not even close) I truly desired to know and follow God.  I want them to see that God and his Word was a comfort to me in hard times of life.  I want them to see that I went to God and his Word when I struggled with sin or discouragement.  I want them to see that through it all, I found PEACE and JOY through my relationship with Christ, and I pray it will encourage them to do the same.

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Tiffany said...

You hit the nail on the head!!

Hazel said...

Amen, Melissa!

Karen said...

What a precious mommy you are....

Janna said...

Oh this is one of my favorite posts that you've written! You should link it up tonight to Just for the Joy of it Thursdays at goodtrueandbeautiful.com

More people need to read this!

Sharon said...

WOW Melissa! That really moved me...

this is my first time to your blog, but I feel like there is a beautiful wonderful friend here, just waiting for me to get to know you. Praise God for your testimony (and the delightful blessing that is our children). May we all cherish today and the JOY it brings!

I am Lee-Ann... said...

I love those sweet moments before naps or bedtime. I too try and treasure them since one day all too soon they won't want to lay down with me anymore. :( Thanks for stopping by!

Jamie~ said...

It's so, so true!

I find myself getting caught up in the mundane tasks of life too often, I'm afraid.

I need to be working harder at making sure I'm teaching them all the time.

Stopping by from Just For the Joy of It.

Our Lives said...

That is just a wonderful story you have shared with us and with your family.
Children do grow fast. My oldest one is already married and has two little ones of his own. God bless us with yet another baby after twenty years. Peter is turning two tomorrow. Yes, time flies and the cherished moments that we have kept with our children turned into fond memories which sustain our days when we miss them dearly. My daughter is on her way out soon so we are cherishing every minute we spend with her (btw, thank you for your encouraging comment on her blog).
I will be praying for you and your family that the Lord will give you many days on this earth according to His purpose. I am thinking of you as my son recited Philippians 4:4-8.